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"I read like the ink from the book is oxygen and I'm gasping for breath."
Long-time counselors Rick Fowler and Natalie Ford believe you can't transmit what you haven't received. In Grace-Based Counseling, you'll discover a new model that is drenched in the grace of God. Because only when counselors are awestruck by the gift of grace can they become vessels of hope and healing for those whom God brings their way.
MY REVIEW: I am not a counselor, but I picked up this book anyway because I expected it to focus on how to use grace in speaking/relating to people. I figured it could be useful for everyday relationships, not just in the counseling field. But it is quite a bit more than that. Grace-Based Counseling is a whole method of counseling that comes from a heart of grace, and focuses more on the heart of the counselor than the counselees. What really impressed me about the book though, is how the authors recognize and rely on the work of the Holy Spirit through their sessions. They quote A. W. Tozer saying "Self is the opaque veil that hides the face of God from us. It can be removed only in spiritual experience, never by mere instruction...There must be a work of God in destruction before we are free."
GRACE is an acronym that stands for God's Image, Rebellion, Altruism, Connection, and Empowerment. As made in God's Image, ALL men have innate dignity and value. Sin is an act of Rebellion against God, not because man is evil, but because the sin is wrong. Altruism means that God has blessed ALL men with common grace, but only those who accept Him will receive the grace of redemption. A Connection must be made between the counselee's need for grace and the grace that God is offering. And counselors are Empowered when they rely on the Holy Spirit to guide their counseling. The first section of the book outlines the method of counseling from a heart of grace. The second section gives case studies to illustrate their points. And the third section is full of handouts and assessment templates for counselor use.
This book is full of guides, examples, and definitions of how to counsel from a Grace-Based foundation. (They can also be used to define the Christian walk in general. It's an extremely relevant book for any Christian.) It all starts with the counselor's heart, and relies on the work of the Holy Spirit. Four standards for Christian counselors who counsel on a biblical worldview are:
Several of my favorites quotes from this book are:
"If our Father in Heaven shows goodness to all, shouldn't we do likewise?"
"God's grace is not dependent on our circumstances nor our behaviors, but on His divine nature."
"The end result of worldly wisdom is futility. The end result of divine wisdom is contentment."
"Grace-based counselors believe that happiness is never the goal of counseling. Happiness is temporary; there is a greater goal that is lasting and fulfilling at a level that happiness is not. Rather, the goal is to be obedient to God, and the byproduct of that obedience often yields joy and contentment. Grace and truth empower obedience."
"Grace first requires an awareness of sin, a need for forgiveness, and the need for God's strength in the midst of weakness."
"God is more concerned with character than comfort."
I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to everyone.
I received a copy of this book from MOODY PUBLISHERS and was not required to give a positive review.
BOOK REVIEW: Present day, Sarah Ashby returns to her childhood home, determined to finally follow her dream of running the family business alongside her mother and grandmother. So when her mother, Rosemary, announces to her that Old Depot Grocery is closing, Sarah and her grandmother, Glory Ann, make a plan to save the store. But Rosemary has worked her entire life to make sure her daughter never follows in her footsteps. She has her reasons -- but she'll certainly never reveal the real one.
1965. Glory Ann confesses to her family that she's pregnant with her deceased fiance's baby. Pressured into a marriage of convenience with a shopkeeper to preserve her family's reputation, Glory Ann vows never to love again. But some promises are not as easily kept as she imagined.
This dual-time story from Amanda Cox deftly explores the complexity of the mother-daughter relationship, the way the secrets we keep shape our lives and the lives of others, and the healing power of telling the truth.
MY REVIEW: This is Amanda Cox's second book and I enjoyed it as much as her first one, The Edge of Belonging. It travels fast through three generations, and I can't decide if it feels too fast and disconnected. It seems like it should, but is actually done well. While there could easily be a separate book for each woman, you get the essential glimpse of each of them, and they often overlap so you get two at once. But I would say Sarah's present is the most in depth glance we get.
The biggest take-away I got from this book is the power of secrets. There are certainly things that don't need to be said, but often we keep in things that hurt us, and sometimes our view of others. Rosemary carries years of hurt because of something she found of her mother's, but since she never brought it to her mother she has lived with a very wrong impression of her and it hindered their relationship drastically. In a roundabout way, this same secret was responsible for more of Rosemary's hurts, including a misjudgment of some of her mother's reactions to her over the years. She felt unloved and insufficient, but Glory Ann was only responding to the reminders of who she had lost. Both sides would have been so much better off if they'd been open and honest about it all. In the present, they all three have various degrees of secrets that keep them on different pages regarding the store's future. Finally, when everything comes to a head, they realize that: "You, me, Sarah--we've worked so hard to fix our brokenness ourselves and then hide the cracks we've left behind......It's high time all three of us come out of hiding and let the light come in." pg 309
Another big take away is the hurtfulness of unforgiveness. Glory Ann's parents did not approve of her pregnancy, and they did what they could to hide it, and distance themselves from it--to the point of refusing to ever visit and even discouraging Glory Ann to come to them. So while they may have kept up their social image, they had this dragging them down throughout their entire lives, not to mention having sacrificed their daughter and grand-daughter. On another side, we often suffer from refusing to forgive ourselves for things that aren't our fault at all. Again, years of hurt came because of undeserved self-accusation.
One last thing that I enjoyed about the book, is the devotion to community. Glory Ann's husband loves running Old Depot Grocery for the way it ministers to the community and brings them together. And now Sarah loves it just as much, and does what she can to somehow keep its legacy of ministry alive. The simple, generous, serving lifestyle that is portrayed is one that we need more of today.
I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to anyone who likes fiction with substance.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to write a positive review.
Mindy's father grapples with the tension between holding on too tightly and letting his daughter spread her wings. Her mother undergoes the emotional roller coaster inherent in the adoption of a child from a war-torn country, discovering the joy hidden amid the difficulties. And Mindy and her sister struggle to find the strength to accept each other as they both discover who they truly are.
Told through three distinct voices in three compelling timelines, The Nature of Small Birds is a hopeful story that explores the meaning of family far beyond genetic code.
MY REVIEW: This story is about Mindy Matthews, who came to America from Vietnam in the Babylift operation when she was 4 years old. The book is written from three different points in her life, and none of them are from her perspective. 1975 is read from her mother's eye when she joins the family. 1988 centers on her sister Sonny while they're in high school. And 2013 is set on her father, and read as current day, with Mindy being 42 years old. It is an interesting way to tell a story about a person without having that person be the main character. I think I would have preferred if there was less jumping between the years, or if the chapters had been longer. It was little difficult to get accustomed to the characters with short bursts of time. But it did keep the story moving. I wish there had been more about Mindy's life when she was first adopted, or even more about searching for her Vietnamese family. In the current setting, she is newly divorced (which was pretty disappointing to find in a Christian book), and this seems like a distraction from that. Her family is having a harder time being ok with it than they thought they would. This book has a theme of letting go, but also of letting in. Mindy was accepted as an adopted daughter, and now she is encouraged to pursue her birth family. There are a few other instances of people letting others in or letting them go, and some that don't learn.
My favorite parts of the story are when Mindy was 4 and learning English, the eccentric lady the girls worked for in high school, and Mindy's grandfather as he sneaks sugar past his domineering wife who insists that coffee must be drunk black or not at all. I would say that there was less of God's involvement in their lives than I wished; it didn't seem like they turned to Him much for guidance in their lives, even really in the big things they faced.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to write a positive review.
BOOK REVIEW: This 10th Anniversary Edition of Pearl in the Sand includes new features that will invite you into the intriguing story of Rahab's journey from lowly outcast to redeemed child of God.
MY REVIEW: Tessa Afshar is one of my favorite authors. She takes ordinary or uncommon bible stories and brings them to life. This story is no exception. Anyone who is familiar with the Bible will know Rahab, the fallen woman who hid Israel's spies and let them down the city walls by a rope. In this book, Tessa lets us imagine what Rahab's life may have been like, and how she came to protect these men. And possibly what may have happened to her after her family was saved from the destruction of Jericho. Since we cannot know the details of her life, this is a fictional story beyond the basic storyline.
This book was released several years ago, and is now coming out in an updated edition. The writing has been streamlined, and a few of the Scripture messages improved. It has a been a while since I read the original edition, but I did not see many differences between the two. They are both excellent.
The message of redemption and worth in this story is overwhelming. It is assumed that Rahab was forced into her role as a harlot, and with the emptiness in her life and soul, felt the pull of Israel's merciful God. After her rescue from Jericho's demise, she and her family seek to join Israel's ranks. But Rahab struggles to feel worthy of God's love, and of the love of Salmon, the man tasked with instructing her family in the laws of the Lord. The scene Tessa composes of Rahab finally recognizing her worth is fabulously done. The picture of the love God has for every person is very well made.
I received a copy of this book from MOODY PRESS and was not required to write a positive review.