The Blonde Bookworm
"I read like the ink from the book is oxygen and I'm gasping for breath."
Thursday, March 31, 2022
My Daily Pursuit
Grace-Based Counseling
BOOK REVIEW: Many of today's books for Christian counselors focus on how to do therapy. But counseling is so much more than a method or a means to an end. That's why Grace-Based Counseling focuses instead on the person of the counselor. Are you spiritually prepared to counsel? To inspire and illuminate the counselee? To face adversity? And most important of all--are you prepared to be channel of the divine grace that you yourself have experienced?
Long-time counselors Rick Fowler and Natalie Ford believe you can't transmit what you haven't received. In Grace-Based Counseling, you'll discover a new model that is drenched in the grace of God. Because only when counselors are awestruck by the gift of grace can they become vessels of hope and healing for those whom God brings their way.
MY REVIEW: I am not a counselor, but I picked up this book anyway because I expected it to focus on how to use grace in speaking/relating to people. I figured it could be useful for everyday relationships, not just in the counseling field. But it is quite a bit more than that. Grace-Based Counseling is a whole method of counseling that comes from a heart of grace, and focuses more on the heart of the counselor than the counselees. What really impressed me about the book though, is how the authors recognize and rely on the work of the Holy Spirit through their sessions. They quote A. W. Tozer saying "Self is the opaque veil that hides the face of God from us. It can be removed only in spiritual experience, never by mere instruction...There must be a work of God in destruction before we are free."
GRACE is an acronym that stands for God's Image, Rebellion, Altruism, Connection, and Empowerment. As made in God's Image, ALL men have innate dignity and value. Sin is an act of Rebellion against God, not because man is evil, but because the sin is wrong. Altruism means that God has blessed ALL men with common grace, but only those who accept Him will receive the grace of redemption. A Connection must be made between the counselee's need for grace and the grace that God is offering. And counselors are Empowered when they rely on the Holy Spirit to guide their counseling. The first section of the book outlines the method of counseling from a heart of grace. The second section gives case studies to illustrate their points. And the third section is full of handouts and assessment templates for counselor use.
This book is full of guides, examples, and definitions of how to counsel from a Grace-Based foundation. (They can also be used to define the Christian walk in general. It's an extremely relevant book for any Christian.) It all starts with the counselor's heart, and relies on the work of the Holy Spirit. Four standards for Christian counselors who counsel on a biblical worldview are:
- A Christian counselor must be free from all men. This means we are not bound to a counseling methodology that has to fit the cultural and political correctness of our day.
- A Christian counselor must be a servant.
- A Christian counselor must be empathetic and caring, never elevating himself or herself above the counselee.
- A Christian counselor must realize that the ultimate goal and objective of therapy is to advance the kingdom of God.
Several of my favorites quotes from this book are:
"If our Father in Heaven shows goodness to all, shouldn't we do likewise?"
"God's grace is not dependent on our circumstances nor our behaviors, but on His divine nature."
"The end result of worldly wisdom is futility. The end result of divine wisdom is contentment."
"Grace-based counselors believe that happiness is never the goal of counseling. Happiness is temporary; there is a greater goal that is lasting and fulfilling at a level that happiness is not. Rather, the goal is to be obedient to God, and the byproduct of that obedience often yields joy and contentment. Grace and truth empower obedience."
"Grace first requires an awareness of sin, a need for forgiveness, and the need for God's strength in the midst of weakness."
"God is more concerned with character than comfort."
I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to everyone.
I received a copy of this book from MOODY PUBLISHERS and was not required to give a positive review.
Wednesday, October 6, 2021
The Secret Keepers of Old Depot Grocery
BOOK REVIEW: Present day, Sarah Ashby returns to her childhood home, determined to finally follow her dream of running the family business alongside her mother and grandmother. So when her mother, Rosemary, announces to her that Old Depot Grocery is closing, Sarah and her grandmother, Glory Ann, make a plan to save the store. But Rosemary has worked her entire life to make sure her daughter never follows in her footsteps. She has her reasons -- but she'll certainly never reveal the real one.
1965. Glory Ann confesses to her family that she's pregnant with her deceased fiance's baby. Pressured into a marriage of convenience with a shopkeeper to preserve her family's reputation, Glory Ann vows never to love again. But some promises are not as easily kept as she imagined.
This dual-time story from Amanda Cox deftly explores the complexity of the mother-daughter relationship, the way the secrets we keep shape our lives and the lives of others, and the healing power of telling the truth.
MY REVIEW: This is Amanda Cox's second book and I enjoyed it as much as her first one, The Edge of Belonging. It travels fast through three generations, and I can't decide if it feels too fast and disconnected. It seems like it should, but is actually done well. While there could easily be a separate book for each woman, you get the essential glimpse of each of them, and they often overlap so you get two at once. But I would say Sarah's present is the most in depth glance we get.
The biggest take-away I got from this book is the power of secrets. There are certainly things that don't need to be said, but often we keep in things that hurt us, and sometimes our view of others. Rosemary carries years of hurt because of something she found of her mother's, but since she never brought it to her mother she has lived with a very wrong impression of her and it hindered their relationship drastically. In a roundabout way, this same secret was responsible for more of Rosemary's hurts, including a misjudgment of some of her mother's reactions to her over the years. She felt unloved and insufficient, but Glory Ann was only responding to the reminders of who she had lost. Both sides would have been so much better off if they'd been open and honest about it all. In the present, they all three have various degrees of secrets that keep them on different pages regarding the store's future. Finally, when everything comes to a head, they realize that: "You, me, Sarah--we've worked so hard to fix our brokenness ourselves and then hide the cracks we've left behind......It's high time all three of us come out of hiding and let the light come in." pg 309
Another big take away is the hurtfulness of unforgiveness. Glory Ann's parents did not approve of her pregnancy, and they did what they could to hide it, and distance themselves from it--to the point of refusing to ever visit and even discouraging Glory Ann to come to them. So while they may have kept up their social image, they had this dragging them down throughout their entire lives, not to mention having sacrificed their daughter and grand-daughter. On another side, we often suffer from refusing to forgive ourselves for things that aren't our fault at all. Again, years of hurt came because of undeserved self-accusation.
One last thing that I enjoyed about the book, is the devotion to community. Glory Ann's husband loves running Old Depot Grocery for the way it ministers to the community and brings them together. And now Sarah loves it just as much, and does what she can to somehow keep its legacy of ministry alive. The simple, generous, serving lifestyle that is portrayed is one that we need more of today.
I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to anyone who likes fiction with substance.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to write a positive review.
Sunday, August 29, 2021
Under the Bayou Moon
Tuesday, August 17, 2021
The Nature of Small Birds
BOOK REVIEW: In 1975, three thousand children were airlifted out of Saigon to be adopted into Western homes. When one of those children announces her plans to return to Vietnam to find her birth mother, her loving adopted family is suddenly thrown back to the events surrounding her unconventional arrival in their lives.
Mindy's father grapples with the tension between holding on too tightly and letting his daughter spread her wings. Her mother undergoes the emotional roller coaster inherent in the adoption of a child from a war-torn country, discovering the joy hidden amid the difficulties. And Mindy and her sister struggle to find the strength to accept each other as they both discover who they truly are.
Told through three distinct voices in three compelling timelines, The Nature of Small Birds is a hopeful story that explores the meaning of family far beyond genetic code.
MY REVIEW: This story is about Mindy Matthews, who came to America from Vietnam in the Babylift operation when she was 4 years old. The book is written from three different points in her life, and none of them are from her perspective. 1975 is read from her mother's eye when she joins the family. 1988 centers on her sister Sonny while they're in high school. And 2013 is set on her father, and read as current day, with Mindy being 42 years old. It is an interesting way to tell a story about a person without having that person be the main character. I think I would have preferred if there was less jumping between the years, or if the chapters had been longer. It was little difficult to get accustomed to the characters with short bursts of time. But it did keep the story moving. I wish there had been more about Mindy's life when she was first adopted, or even more about searching for her Vietnamese family. In the current setting, she is newly divorced (which was pretty disappointing to find in a Christian book), and this seems like a distraction from that. Her family is having a harder time being ok with it than they thought they would. This book has a theme of letting go, but also of letting in. Mindy was accepted as an adopted daughter, and now she is encouraged to pursue her birth family. There are a few other instances of people letting others in or letting them go, and some that don't learn.
My favorite parts of the story are when Mindy was 4 and learning English, the eccentric lady the girls worked for in high school, and Mindy's grandfather as he sneaks sugar past his domineering wife who insists that coffee must be drunk black or not at all. I would say that there was less of God's involvement in their lives than I wished; it didn't seem like they turned to Him much for guidance in their lives, even really in the big things they faced.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to write a positive review.
Friday, May 21, 2021
Jewel of the Nile
Theo is shocked to discover a stowaway on board his vessel and determines to be rid of her as soon as possible. But drawn in by Chariline’s story, he feels honor-bound to see her safely to shore, especially when it appears someone may be willing to kill for the truth she seeks.
In this transformative tale of historical fiction, bestselling author Tessa Afshar brings to life the kingdom of Cush and the Roman Empire, introducing readers to a fascinating world filled with gripping adventure, touching romance, and a host of lovable characters― including some they may recognize from the biblical book of Acts.
Saturday, April 3, 2021
Miriam's Song
Monday, March 1, 2021
When Twilight Breaks
Thursday, January 21, 2021
All That We Carried
Monday, January 4, 2021
Pearl in the Sand > 10th Anniversary Edition
BOOK REVIEW: This 10th Anniversary Edition of Pearl in the Sand includes new features that will invite you into the intriguing story of Rahab's journey from lowly outcast to redeemed child of God.
MY REVIEW: Tessa Afshar is one of my favorite authors. She takes ordinary or uncommon bible stories and brings them to life. This story is no exception. Anyone who is familiar with the Bible will know Rahab, the fallen woman who hid Israel's spies and let them down the city walls by a rope. In this book, Tessa lets us imagine what Rahab's life may have been like, and how she came to protect these men. And possibly what may have happened to her after her family was saved from the destruction of Jericho. Since we cannot know the details of her life, this is a fictional story beyond the basic storyline.
This book was released several years ago, and is now coming out in an updated edition. The writing has been streamlined, and a few of the Scripture messages improved. It has a been a while since I read the original edition, but I did not see many differences between the two. They are both excellent.
The message of redemption and worth in this story is overwhelming. It is assumed that Rahab was forced into her role as a harlot, and with the emptiness in her life and soul, felt the pull of Israel's merciful God. After her rescue from Jericho's demise, she and her family seek to join Israel's ranks. But Rahab struggles to feel worthy of God's love, and of the love of Salmon, the man tasked with instructing her family in the laws of the Lord. The scene Tessa composes of Rahab finally recognizing her worth is fabulously done. The picture of the love God has for every person is very well made.
I received a copy of this book from MOODY PRESS and was not required to write a positive review.
Tuesday, November 17, 2020
Burden of Proof
Saturday, November 7, 2020
Workplace Discipleship 101
Tuesday, October 13, 2020
The Greatest Missionary Generation
Friday, September 25, 2020
The Edge of Belonging
Saturday, September 19, 2020
Why Am I Not Healed
- We cannot use the power of prayer as a mere tool at our disposal. We have to be in constant communion with God and His Word. "You must rise with the Word in your life." -pg 16
- When the four men brought their lame friend into the house where Jesus taught, the way was crowded so they entered through the roof. Miracles don't come on a platter, "if you want to get your miracle, you have to make a great effort, and that means you may be inconvenienced." -pg19
- Jesus didn't just heal physical ailments, He began with spiritual ones. But here is one of my biggest hiccups with the book: Glen goes on to say "sin is connected to physical sickness."-pg 23 I don't believe that the wealthy healthy man is always the christian, and that the poor sick man always is not. God says that He blesses the just and the unjust, and we do live in an imperfect, fallen world. That's not to say that sickness is never the result of sin, but it's an area I need to study more myself. Glen writes, "Jesus wants to heal you, but first He wants to forgive your sins.... I need to look at not just my physical body but all the areas in my life that God needs to adjust."-pg 31 Yes, but then he writes, "it will be easy to receive your physical healing when you get your life right spiritually... if there are issues in your spirit, it will eventually show up as some form of physical illness."-pg 32 I believe that illnesses can often be the result of sin in one's life, but to put such an unswerving point on it feels overstepped.
- We have to put the majority of our time and efforts into our relationship with God, because that is what will stand for eternity. I really needed this reminder: "The spirit world is more real than the physical world. It is eternal. It has always existed and it will always exist."-pg78 If we do not know what God's word says, we will be easily led astray by good-sounding, but false, doctrine.
- Often God promises us something and it takes a good long while to come about. Did we hear God wrong? Did He change His mind, or did I do something to affect it? There will be in-between times in life when we just have to trust God and wait. "We all go through the in-between times. You may never understand, but one day we will get to Heaven, and we will get those answers."-pg131 There are usually obstacles to overcome in our lifetime, obstacles that would overwhelm if we knew them before they came. Often it is a blessing not to know what is ahead. At the end of it all, if we turn from God where else can we turn to? So trust, and stick it out.
Thursday, July 16, 2020
An Appalachian Summer
When Piper gets the opportunity to volunteer as a horseback Frontier Nursing courier in the Appalachian Mountains for the summer, she jumps at the chance to be something other than a dutiful daughter or a kept wife in a loveless marriage. The work is taxing, the scenery is jaw-droppingly gorgeous, and the people she meets along the way open a whole new world to her. The longer she stays, the more an advantageous marriage slips from her grasp. But something much more precious---true love---is drawing ever closer.
MY REVIEW: Ann Gabhart's books are a step above most of the Christian novel genre. Her romance isn't as cheesy and overwhelming, and there is a bit more depth in her books; though they are still light novels.
I really enjoyed the concept of Frontier Nurses. These women lived in the mountains and ministered to the people living there. Much of their job was midwifing. Piper's job was to courier supplies and such between bases, either by foot or horseback. These delicate city girls spent the summer mucking stables, milking cows, and riding through the mountain mazes.
The secondary characters in this book were fun: there is the charming young boy in the hospital, the grouchy mountaineer with rifle ready, the steady nurses, and the fellow couriers. The main characters were good to. But despite this the book was just a bit on the dry side. It seems like many pages were used to get little done. More could have been said for the time Piper spent in the mountains, more about the situations she ran into and the people she met. While I enjoyed the aspect of the nursing system, my attention wasn't always held.
This book did bring out faith better than some novels do: traveling in the mountains calls on more faith than most plot lines, and Piper had conversations with several people who illuminated the difference between knowing Jesus from going to church, and having Him in her heart.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to write a positive review.
Wednesday, June 24, 2020
The Key to Everything
Struggling to cope with a young life upended, Peyton makes a daring decision: he will retrace a journey his father took at fifteen, riding his bicycle from St. Augustine, Florida, all the way to Key West. Part declaration of independence, part search for self, Peyton's journey will bring him more than he ever could have imagined--namely, the key to his unknowable father, a longed-for reunion, and a calling that will shape the rest of his life.
MY REVIEW: Valerie Fraser Luesse had me with her first book, Missing Isaac, and I've read each of her books as they've come out. This is the third one, and I liked it equally to the rest, but had to admit that for one reason they are not the quality of books I consider them to be. Valerie writes Southern tales of love and loss and picking up and going on. But while many good core lessons can be applied from her stories, she doesn't put the stock in God's being the Redeemer as ought to be. It's been over a year since reading her previous books, so I may be remembering wrongly on those, but for this book it's true. So while I will continue to pick up her books for that true Southern grace which each expounds, I cannot give them quite the rating I would first wish.
This book is the tale of a fifteen year old lad who suffers loss, and great loneliness with it. Feeling distanced from his father, he takes off on a bicycle trip mimicking one taken twenty years before, from St Augustine, FL to Key West. I looked up the distance after reading the book and its 470mi, the last 7 of which are crossing the Atlantic. One thing about this book is the characters' "just knowing", for instance, Peyton just knew it was time for this trip, and later just knew his parents had been at the old abandoned homestead he stumbled upon. It adds to the Southern charm, but I don't know that I'd consider it very realistic or reliable. Anyways.
On this trip, Peyton came across various helpful people who put him up for the night, and made a deep impression on his trip; some of them he remained lasting friends with. That was a highlight for me, that people were so hospitable and gracious and just loved whomever they met. The book is set in 1947 so such a thing would not be as unusual as it is now. I think that is why it's so becoming. It's not just something that should be, it's something that was but has been lost.
And I can't forget this important vein of the story, the Peyton and Lisa vein. At the end of his trip whom should Peyton find there but Lisa. Of course. But we knew that would happen, because his father first met his mother on his trip so we can't be too surprised. The love story in this book is different from many others. It has the genuine Southern feel to it that makes you root for the characters and know that they are going to face hardship but get through it anyways. While it has its flaws (for starters, these guys are only fifteen years old) it's endearing.
In the end, I enjoyed the book. It is light, and probably won't leave you feeling like God has worked great things in another life, but the steadying that Peyton found is reassuring. In a day when everyone is on the hunt to 'find themselves' we realize that such things only bring out our selfishness and the desire for others to change around our characters. There are those who really do not know where they are meant to be, or even who they are meant to be. They do not need to 'find themselves', they need to turn to God. And perhaps, sometimes, they may benefit from doing that unusual something that bonds them to the one they've felt distanced from.
I received a copy of this book from REVELL and was not required to give a positive review.
Wednesday, April 15, 2020
One Small Step
With inspiring stories and scriptural insight, bestselling author Matthew Barnett calls you to set aside your fears and boldly embrace the life-changing adventure of becoming the hands and feet of Jesus to the broken people right outside your front door.
You will soon discover that “random acts of kindness” are not so random after all.
MY REVIEW: Matthew Barnett pastors the Dream Center in Los Angeles, CA; a place of refuge and second chances for anyone who comes to their door. They help thousands of people each week. In the introduction he writes: “Do I have all the answers? No! Not even close. This book is not about solutions; in fact, it is about something greater. It is about doing good and having no clue how to make sense of it. It is about the Holy Spirit, the encounters we face daily and the willingness to break free from a me-centered world to embrace the messy life of someone who is willing to step out. It is about taking risks for people who most others would say deserve their fate, dreaming for people who have lost their dreams and refusing to give in to reasons that hold back compassion.”
I got so much good insight from this book—I could fill this whole review with quotes from it. I consider the book to be as much about change in yourself as in doing good for others. Thirteen chapters—Thirteen ‘steps’, each with a page at the end to record ways you can follow God's nudges.
Follow the Nudge. We are often nudged to do a small deed of kindness, etc, that is out of our comfort zone, habit, or schedule. Get into the habit of acting on them—don’t let fear keep you back. Even if it seems unimportant. The smallest things can make a huge difference.
A Life-Changing Step. Being willing to take a step that requires giving up all that we have and are, and leaves us vulnerable and relying completely on God.
The Steps You Think You Cannot Take. Take the big step that looks unattainable. Rejoice in each small win. Rely on God to give you the strength for each step of the way.
Make Everything A Big Deal. Every step forward is a win—celebrate it, in yourself as well as others. Never underestimate the power of encouragement, for it can turn a person’s resolve around.
The Small Steps That Change Lives. Those who are falling, or have already fallen, do not need judgment, but love. Rather than holding what they have done against them, give them a reason to rise again.
Step On Toes. Be willing to call out talent or potential in those who can’t see it for themselves. Graciously accept others calling you out when you don’t realize your own potential.
Step Out Of Yourself. Lose the selfish focus and look to serve others.
When You Feel You Cannot Move. Sometimes we come to the end of our capacity to move forward and God calls us to rest. We may need to gain strength for the way ahead. It’s not failure, it’s maintenance.
One Small Thought. Don’t dismiss that thought that seems out of the box or impossible—yours and other’s. Try it out, see where it goes. Just because it hasn’t been done doesn’t mean it can’t be.
The Attitude of A Servant. Be so full of serving others that you have no time to wallow in self.
The Risk-Taking Step. Be willing to step out before you have all the answers. Be brave despite your fear.
Step To The Future. It’s not too late. You’re not too far gone. You can still turn your life around and live in hope for the future.
Leave A Local Legacy. You don’t have to be a celebrity to leave a legacy. Be the one who is remembered for always being there, always loving, always giving.
I really enjoyed this book. It was a good read, but also an easy one. It didn’t bog down, overwhelm, or stall out. Matthew wrote in a very honest and down to earth way that revealed his own humanness which only strengthens the book.
I received a copy of this book from CHOSEN and was not required to write a positive review.
Monday, March 23, 2020
Daughter of Rome
MY REVIEW: This is the most recent of Tessa Afshar's books, her eight one I believe. She chooses less prominent biblical characters to explore stories of, and this book is written around Aquila and Priscilla, the couple who gave shelter to the Apostle Paul at some point. There is so little known about this couple, thus this book takes great liberties with the story. I enjoyed the story though, imagining what this couples' life may have been like, the fears and trials they may have encountered.
Priscilla is portrayed as a young woman who's father had died, leaving her in the care of her wealthy, though selfish brother who left her to live as a pauper in his illustrious home. She had made friends with Christians Jews and through them met Aquila, who had recently been disinherited by his father because of his belief in Jesus. Her unfailing love and care of those around her -- even those who wished her harm -- is an image of the love of Christ we ought to portray.
I wish we knew more about Aquila and Priscilla--theirs would be a tale to behold. We know that they were Christians, and would possibly have been persecuted in some manner because of it. We know that they were tent makers. And we know that they were friends of Paul the Apostle, who gave them credit for strengthening the Christians around them. They seem to be strong, devout followers of Jesus. We today miss something by the ease of our lives. We don't have to chose life or Christ, we get both.
This book was interesting, as it gave a potential glance into the lives of the early Christians. It is a novel of sterner stuff than most, but remains one just the same. The relationship of Aquila and Priscilla is a dominant theme, with the lessons of love and forgiveness towards everyone to be gleaned around it.
I received a copy of this book from NETGALLEY, and was not required to write a positive review.
Tuesday, February 25, 2020
From the Grave
MY REVIEW: Lent is not a season I know anything about, beyond its being a season of remembering and preparing for Easter. I picked up the book mainly because it was Tozer.
The book is a compilation of daily readings taken from A. W. Tozer's books and sermons about various related topics. The index will tell where each reading was taken from. Many are from his book "The Root of Righteousness". Each reading is accompanied by a Bible verse selected by the publisher. The book is technically written by Tozer, though I would love to see how it would be written had he compiled the devotional on his own.
The chapters are divided between seven weeks, Monday-Saturday. The subjects are such as: 'The Uses of Suffering', 'True Faith Brings Commitment', and 'Raised with Christ'. I really enjoyed the book. It is full of convicting passages, yet always brings out the hope and joy we have when we truly die to self and live in Christ. Perhaps the most convicting passages to me were those on the Cross. One line says: "So we talk a lot about the deeper life and spiritual victory and becoming dead to ourselves---but we stay very busy rescuing ourselves from the cross". We as Christians know we have to die to ourselves and live in Christ, but we don't always understand how completely we have to die--we try to find a compromise that allows us to remain in partial control. This book really challenged me to surrender completely.
I received a copy of this book from MOODY PUBLISHERS and was not required to write a positive review.